From Wikipedia entry when I was looking up what forgiveness means:
“Forgiveness is the intentional and voluntary process by which a victim undergoes a change in feelings and attitude regarding an offense, lets go of negative emotions such as vengefulness, with an increased ability to wish the offender well.
Forgiveness is different from condoning (failing to see the action as wrong and in need of forgiveness), excusing (not holding the offender as responsible for the action), forgetting (removing awareness of the offense from consciousness), pardoning (granted for an acknowledged offense by a representative of society, such as a judge), and reconciliation (restoration of a relationship).
Forgiveness may be considered simply in terms of the person who forgives including forgiving themselves, in terms of the person forgiven or in terms of the relationship between the forgiver and the person forgiven.
In most contexts, forgiveness is granted without any expectation of restorative justice, and without any response on the part of the offender (for example, one may forgive a person who is incommunicado or dead).”
I had a good day
– drinking coffee and having a mango smoothie with Jake Hall, who I met IRL this afternoon. Mugshot Cafe is indeed a good place for some basic creature comforts in the middle of Georgetown
– travelling out of town beyond touristville. An emotional session with Reiki master, Danish who shared some wise words with compassion and forthrightness
– observed a Chinese grandad (?) dote on his grandson (?) unheeded
– made a list and did some writing around what I blame myself for, who I have been wanting apologies from, thought about what and who I’m prepared to lose or give up
– did some yin yoga following the app with the funny voice lady
– did some meditation
– writing this which helps
Am looking forward to tomorrow. There’s a hole in the ceiling. Was it there before?